Do you ever feel as if you have too much junk in your closet? I’m referring to the closet of your mind and the information you process every day when you log into your social stream and open your email.
Maybe it’s time to schedule a spring cleaning and reduce the pressure of your social media fire hose!
The answer might be “yes” if you:
- Get Facebook messages from groups you didn’t join or from people you don’t really know.
- Receive daily notifications from LinkedIn groups that you automatically delete, or if you get invites to connect from people simply because you share a group and have nothing else in common.
- Look at your Twitter and Facebook streams and wonder, “who is this person?”
Where do you begin?
Here’s my story of how I began this difficult spring cleaning chore…
I mentioned to my husband that I really wanted to do some spring cleaning and clear out stuff I don’t use but didn’t know where to start. He asked and suggested,
“What gives you the most stress? Start there.”
Stress begins the moment I set down to the computer and “log on!” The answer resulted in my quest to cut down the influx of information processed on a daily basis as a result of being involved in social media.
I began my quest on a rainy day spring Saturday by leaving Facebook and LinkedIn groups, changing email notification settings on others, and unfriending and unfollowing people I don’t really know.
My biggest stress is the overload of information I don’t find useful or don’t act upon, cluttering up my brain and taking attention away from what I do want to read, including zapping free time.
The decision to leave groups and unfriend people has been stressful in itself. But the following words from a long-time close friend resonate:
“Why are you spending so much of your energy with hundreds of people you don’t really know?
You’re the one who often talks about opportunity costs, and you’ve been complaining about not having time to ride your bike and do other stuff. Something always has to give.”
The advice of this good friend served as a mirror. What was I willing to give up?
After months of feeling like I don’t have time for things I really want to do, to master the things I want to become proficient in, I realized the opportunity costs were getting the better of me and I had to change – NOW! Many of you know I’ve been dealing with some health issues. I sleep more as a result. If I want to enjoy biking, hiking, writing, gardening, time with family, studying, reading and working full-time (plus) while running an SEO consultancy, then it’s time to guard the few spare hours left in a day.
This spring cleaning served as the difficult first steps to turn down the pressure of my social media fire hose to free up headspace and make time for what’s important. (And writing blog posts is one of those.) The spring cleaning exercise reminded me it’s time to get back my writing voice and share why I’ve made such changes.
You’re in control of what comes into your yard, your personal space. You either control it, or you’ll be overwhelmed by it.
Let’s take physical space and compare it to an etheral, online sense:
You are in your backyard. You have a table and chairs and your little space. You invite a few people over to chat. Others start showing up, talking about whatever. You welcome the first few and enjoy varied conversations.
But you didn’t shut the gate to the yard. More and more people come in. Later, hundreds of conversations are circling you at once. Your back yard is no longer a place to hang out with close friends, family and neighbors. Every time you walk outside, you are bombarded with megaphones of chatter. You stop going into your own yard as often as a result.
That’s the way I’ve felt with the growing size of my social networks. Oh, I LOVE the socialization and the sharing, but one can only hold so many conversations at one time and retain quality.
The following people have also served as “mirrors” and inspiration in their writings and attempts to shut down the influx of noise from social media:
Joanna Lord wrote, Finding My Voice: A Lesson Learned, in which she decided to stop allowing so much noise to surround her after asking herself:
“Am I doing what I should be doing?”
“Am I spending my time on the right things?”
“Am I being true to myself and the dreams I once dreamt?”
Amanda Orson shared about her Reverse To-Do List in which she writes down progress she’s made each day in a notebook. Her focused approach lead her to tweet and participate in forumns less:
“The relentless pursuit of becoming more efficient and getting things done readjusted my priorities. I spend a lot less time wasting time and a lot more time trying to add things to my tiny notebook of accountability.”
Matthew Leonard shared his journey, When to Take a Social Media Break:
“Twitter became my priority. It became my obsession.
I should’ve been shutting down and enjoying a moment in life, a moment I can never get back.
Instead, my mind was focused on how to condense the moment into 140 characters and share it.
My life had become a massive extended relationship. I was losing focus on the core people, and priorities, in my life. I was spreading myself too thin for fear of not ‘sharing’, or turning my back on social media.
If one’s not careful, life can become one massive extended relationship!
I recently had a conversation with Shane Igo, a guy very involved in consumer electronics, and discussed how fewer people are reading. I expressed my concern about a “dumbing down” of our culture due to people spending so much time in social media. His response was insightful:
“There is a lot of good that comes from social media. However, people get overwhelmed if they don’t have good filters or ability to process.
People have a longing to have mastery over a craft or subject. That will not come from just keeping up on tweets. You need to dig deeper.”
Yes! You have to dig deeper! The social media firehose can become a distraction that interrupts one’s mastery over a craft (other than becoming a “social media guru”).
I love social media and appreciate the friendships that have developed from it. I want to keep those friends and not get so diluted that I don’t notice them as they “fly by” in my stream. Too much of a good thing doesn’t make it better.
For me, it’s time to control the fire hose.
What about you?
How do you control the influx of information you process? Do you have things you enjoy or passions you want to pursue that do not involve the computer?
If you could free up an extra hour or two a day, what would you do with your free time?
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