Rebounding From A Fall – My Personal Humpty Dumpty Story

October 6, 2010 · 54 comments

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Humpty Dumpty

Humpty Dumpty took a great fall ...

Have you ever felt like Humpty Dumpty after taking a huge fall? The fall may be the loss of a family member, the loss of a job, the loss of health or a physical injury.

How did you rebound from the fall?

Many of us once recited the Humpty Dumpty Poem:

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall,
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall.
All the King’s horses,
And all the King’s men
Couldn’t put Humpty together again!

Whatever you have experienced or are going through, you can be put back together again! Chances are your life was different from before your own personal fall, but you adjusted – you rebounded.

I am currently in the rebounding process now after taking “a great fall” in September. Actually, I experienced a number of falls – a sequence of events I prefer to see as “life-changing growth opportunities.” It’s all been meant for good. Here is my personal summer and “fall” recap

Top of the World

I literally felt on top of the world at the beginning of September. The summer of 2010 was one of the best for my personal history books. Heck, what search marketer wouldn’t salivate at attending 3 conferences in 3 months and getting to do blog or radio show coverage for each?

SMX Advanced

SMX Advanced in Seattle kicked off the summer, and I liveblogged a few sessions. This was my first attempt at “live blogging” a search conference – oh boy!

BlueGlass LA

Attending the inaugural BlueGlass LA conference in July was phenomenal. David Harry of the SEO Dojo and I chatted about rich nuggets shared from Day 1:

SEOmoz

What an honor to provide blogging coverage at SEOmoz PRO Seminar training in August. I was treated like a VIP! Everything about the conference was top-notch, as agreed by all attendees with whom I spoke. Coverage included:

I didn’t finish coverage for Day 2 of the SEOmoz conference, regretfully, due to unforeseen circumstances.

In summary, it was the busiest, most successful summer for networking, business and cycling.

  • Cycling: Training for Levi’s GranFondo, a 100-mile mass start bike ride with massive amounts of climbing on October 9. was going well. Heck, I logged 730 miles on the bike in July and 638 miles in August.
  • Business: My SEO consulting agency was (and is) kickin’ it, and I FINALLY launched the website.
  • Business: I had accepted an opportunity to work part-time with SEOmoz as an Associate (external staff helping with Q&A & blogging). I later had to decline due to what I’m sharing in this post.

It appeared the only limitations to success were time and energy. Admittedly, I was growing increasingly tired but blamed it solely on over-training and long work hours.

The Great Fall

October began in stark contrast to September. I was using crutches and recovering from a mild concussion! I began to feel like Humpty Dumpty, having fallen off a high wall.

I won’t go into too many details, but thought I’d be transparent about some changes in my life.

Medical Tests

I had medical tests in early September for a hereditary kidney condition – standard blood work plus ultra sounds. It was the first time I visually saw my kidneys, which are covered in cysts. I’ve had 3 ultra sounds before, but this was the first time I got to watch. While Google Instant was being unveiled to the world on September 8, I was viewing my internal organs. My life perspective instantly changed.

I’ve known about and managed the condition well for many years. It’s called Polycystic Kidney Disease (PKD) and is the reason my Dad died early in his life. The condition is not, however, my identity. I don’t focus on it a lot and eat right, exercise, etc. Heck, there’s too much life to be experienced and optimized!

Fortunately, exercise is essential and being addicted to cycling is good for the kidneys, as long as I stay hydrated and don’t go too hard. (Heck, how many people get Doctor’s orders to exercise!)

Next

Blood test results were not favorable. Wake-up call.

It was time to adhere to my primary doctor’s ongoing advice to reduce stress, and stop to smell the roses more. Stress and epinephrine (aka adrenaline rush) is hard on your kidneys. One needs extra sleep. (I guess getting 3-4 hours of sleep a night blogging and uploading conference pictures isn’t that good either.)

I began reducing commitments in early September in order to focus on my health and meet client needs.

  • No additional blog posts, for now
  • No working with SEOmoz PRO members for Q&A, etc. <sniffle, sniffle>
  • Less time on Twitter
  • Much less time on FaceBook
  • Less time in forums and online reading of superfluous stuff
  • More rest, quiet time and reading, the type where you turn pages in a book.

Stuff Happens

Well, they say stuff happens in threes.

Number 2 hit a week later when I got sick and ended up in Urgent Care. UGH, I was scheduled to do the Connect for a Cure Century that day! But, I bounced back after a few grueling days, yet I was bummed about missing the event. Could I still be ready for Levi’s GranFondo bike ride?

A Humorous Aside

The 1st 200 cyclists who signed up for this century got a personally-signed copy of Chris Carmichael’s book, “The Time-Crunched Cyclist: Fit, Fast, and Powerful in 6 Hours a Week.”  When we signed up, I was so busy that I told my husband that he could read the book FOR me. Well … my hubby told Chris what I had said, got the book signed:

Chris Carmichael signed Dana's book - Time Crunched Cyclist

Chris Carmichael signed Dana's book - Time Crunched Cyclist

Third “Fall” Is A Charm

OK, after getting back on the bike and getting a few decent rides in, I met up to ride with the crew of Cycle Folsom on Monday night, September 27. What a blast!

As some may know, cyclists can get leg cramps after riding and not properly hydrating and stretching. Well … my right calf muscle “charlie horsed” at 3:45am.

I woke up. Stood. Bent down to grab the calf. The only things I remember after that are:

  • Hearing my neck crack;
  • My husband at my side calling my name.

My face was planted into the rug.

OUCH!!!

  • The crown of my head hurt BURNED in pain.
  • My left toe cried out as my ankle throbbed.
  • It hurt to lift my head due to whatever compression occurred in the neck.

My head had hit the mirrored closet door – pushed it off the tracks.

What happened? Surely I had fallen back to sleep. I later learned I passed out due to low blood pressure, possible dehydration as well. (I had never passed out before.)

It’s called “vasovagal (vasomotor) syncope” when blood pools in the thorax area and doesn’t make it to the head.

The Result

Crutches, headache, blurry eyes, blurry brain … The glare of the computer was literally painful to the back of my eyes for days. I’ve been recovering from a minor concussion as a result of the fall.

Putting Humpty Dumpty Back Together

I knew this was just another step in a fast-moving treadmill of awakenings that were shaping my priorities and my habits and how I spent my time.

“Coincidentally,” in early September, I had scheduled a bike ride months earlier to meet with a good friend, Sherri Eklof. She had just learned of a book on the NY Times Best Seller’s List, “One Month to Live – 30 Days to a Regrets-Free Life.” Sherri informed me that Lakeside Church, where I used to go, had organized small groups to meet for 6 weeks to study the book together (92 small groups, amazingly).

I was interested in the book but not the study or church. I was too busy!! Heck, the group Sherri would attend on Thursday nights conflicted with my Tuesday/Thursday training schedule!

BUT, wait. Was all this happening for a reason? It felt as if God was talking to me through all this amazing timing of events. My mind raced. I prayed. I bought the book the next day. Below are a couple excerpts from the Introduction that captivated me:

“Most of us, if we knew we only had one month to live, would live differently. We would be more authentic about who we are and more deliberate about how we spend our time. But such a contrast begs the question: What keeps us from living this way now?

“Our technology and modern conveniences have revolutionized our twenty-first century lives but at what price?”

“Looking at old tombstones, I can’t help but recognize that entire lives are now reduced by two dates and one little dash. … It comes down to what’s in the dash. … We get to decide how we’re going to use our dash.”

The Dash

How often do you think about your dash? Or are you too busy, caught in a 24/7 adrenaline rush?

Was my dash going to equate to “too busy” to do this or that?

On September 3rd, my Mom opened her heart and shared she was not sure why she had moved to Folsom, CA. (I moved here almost 3 years ago, and she retired and moved here to be near me almost 2 years ago, away from her friends and extended family.) She said,

“You’re so busy, and I hardly ever see you. I’m happy you’re doing so well and understand, but …”

My heart broke! After all, she is my best friend. Oh, gosh.

I find time for Twitter and FaceBook, spending hours with friends and acquaintances, but they are not anywhere as dear to my heart as my Mom. I realized that time online and social media was consuming a large part of my dash.

Adjustment Began

I soon became “addicted” to my daily One-Month-to-Live reading and started adjusting schedule. And, yes, I joined that Thursday night study! The gauntlet had been thrown down, and I accepted the challenge.

The Doctor’s Appointment

September 30th was the “big day” to see the Nephrologist. Interestingly, I was totally calm. I had my notes, lab tests and positive attitude as I hobbled into his office with one lame foot.

The doctor was able to put together a number of results to see the full picture. My kidneys were not failing.

  • My blood pressure was too low, which caused the results to show high toxin levels in my blood. (Kidneys need good blood pressure to filter toxins.)
  • I was dehydrated, as indicated by additional out-of-normal-range test results.
  • My “fainting spell” resulted from a combination of low blood pressure and dehydration. “Coincidentally” the accident helped him confirm test abnormalities. What timing!
  • In addition, he diagnosed me as anemic.  This explained the extreme tiredness for the past few months and why I wasn’t recovering as well from my training.

Have you ever been so happy you could just cry? I was more emotional leaving the doctor than when I walked in thinking things were much worse!

Rebounding Back Upon the Wall

While feeling like I was cracked open on the ground, I made some big changes to rebound from my fall(s). I am spending more time:

  • Reading, praying, prioritizing, and setting personal and professional goals.
  • With family and friends, in real life.
  • Going to a chiropractor who specializes in sports medicine, something I’ve needed to do for years.

And …

  • I took a few days away from social media and limited computer usage while healing from the concussion. (The glare of the monitor hurt my eyes.)
  • I took a couple days off from client work. (I am thankful for the personal relationships with my clients, who really care.)

One client said,

“Maybe this will be a Shakabuku (spiritual kick to the head). We could all use some enlightenment.”

It has been a spiritual, supernatural, series of experiences. Humpty Dumpty is being put back together again. I will rebound with a life that operates a little differently but a lot sturdier, stronger and more purposed about how and with whom I spend that dash.

I’m now thankful for the adversity and the fall that knocked some sense into me.

Amazingly, I have lost that urge to constantly check for new email, tweets or FaceBook updates.

I’ve become addicted to turning pages of books! Along with “One Month to Live” and thinking about ways to live a regrets-free life, I am savoring Vanessa Fox’s “Marketing in the Age of Google.”

One Month to Live & Marketing in the Age of Google

Dana's Reading: "One Month to Live" & "Marketing in the Age of Google"

Getting back to the top of the world and climbing the wall of life requires spending some time getting “rebuilt” on the ground. Work on the foundations of your life in the rebounding process. Think about how you are spending your discretionary time.

How are you spending your dash?

In closing my personal Humpty Dumpty story, I especially liked this quote shared by Warren Whitlock on Twitter:

“We can throw stones, complain about them, stumble on them, climb over them, or build with them”
@WarrenWhitlock
Warren Whitlock

Well done, Warren!

Thank you to friends who have been there encouraging and supporting me as I rebound!


Creative Commons LicensePhoto Credit – Humpty Dumpty: http://www.flickr.com/photos/aturkus/3017214847/ / CC BY 2.0

 

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1 Kate Morris October 6, 2010 at 5:46 pm

All my love and support. You are a strong woman and this just proves that once more. I feel you on the need to unattach from our world as we know it, and reconnect with family and friends. You are an inspiration Dana. As an online friend, I am happy you spend time online. But as a real worlder as well, I totally understand the need to disconnect. Just like Jane Copland noticed as well, if you get offline, when you return, it’s like you just join the current again. Jump in and out as needed. We will all be there, jumping in and out as well.

HUGS and KISSES!

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2 Dana Lookadoo October 6, 2010 at 5:59 pm

Kate, your comment brought tears to my eyes, coming from such a strong woman as yourself – can’t thank you enough! Interestingly, you are right about jumping back. It’s the “missing out” part that is the struggle. But I think of the opportunity costs you balanced while in your Master’s program; one has to focus.

OXOXO

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3 Lori October 6, 2010 at 5:50 pm

Wow, thank you for sharing your story, Dana! We can all learn from your experiences. God sure has creative ways of getting our attention! For me, it’s been about dental work for the last 30 days – so much pain and stress, but I find myself praying more and turning to God more. Clearly there is a purpose to our trials.

Hugs & prayers!

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4 Dana Lookadoo October 6, 2010 at 6:02 pm

Lori, I saw the way you handled your tremendous dental pain, and that in itself was an inspiration. Yes, there are times when we just don’t have the strength on our own. That’s when we really experience the single set of footprints in the sand when we don’t even realize it!

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5 Lyndsay Walker October 6, 2010 at 6:08 pm

I am SO glad to hear you’re taking care of yourself!! That is a scary series of events. Much love to you Dana, hope to see you soon (but not too soon – rest!)

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6 Dana Lookadoo October 6, 2010 at 6:14 pm

ahhh, Lyndsay!! I’m feeling so much better and just got off the crutches. I also learned how to cook liver and onions, so it’s been a pretty positive outcome, for sure. :-)

We are on for PubCon, correct? Look forward to seeing you, too. Appreciated!

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7 Alan October 6, 2010 at 6:13 pm

hmmmm. well, the time you take away from your “online” persona just means we get to treasure your participation even that much more… and we get to learn from your experience Dana… all of us.

<3

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8 Dana Lookadoo October 6, 2010 at 6:24 pm

Alan, you helped me through early on with a listening ear. Your friendship is invaluable! <3 right back atchya!

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9 Chris Winfield October 6, 2010 at 6:17 pm

Wow, so sorry to hear about everything you had to go through but it sounds like you handled it all amazingly. Good thoughts are with you Dana!

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10 Dana Lookadoo October 6, 2010 at 6:28 pm

Your thoughts mean a lot, Chris! If we knew in advance what we needed to handle in the future, we’d say we couldn’t do it. But when one takes a day at a time, it begins to feel like a big rock that is being chiseled into a sculpture. Heck, like BlueGlass, it becomes a work of art.

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11 steveplunkett October 6, 2010 at 6:30 pm

you are making me cry.. you ok sis?

u got the digits… call if u need a hug, a word of inspiration, an seo epiphany ..

p.s. i haven’t been on my “personal facebook” account since sometime last week.. twitter… i’m at work at 8pm.. (i came back after my dentist’s appt..) why? because things need to be done and poop rolls uphill… (or is that downhill? ) anyways.. i don’t like poop, want to step in poop (i hope laughter doesn’t crack yer egg dear..), anyways.. no poop for me.. you get the idea…

it’s soooo on at #pubcon…

let me know if u need some holistic healing foods/herbs etc.. (u know.. the neenja stuph)

i do understand.. my brain has been on crutches… (inside.. phone only story) – now it’s not.. as in drinking 12 cups of coffee a day to allow my body to keep up with it…

thank God for the wake up call, accept his hand in guiding your life.. turn off the crap and finish the books =)

XOXOXOXOXO

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12 Dana Lookadoo October 6, 2010 at 6:41 pm

OK, Steve, you just reached out and delivered one of the best laughs I’ve had in a while!! And when I start to get distracted by too much social media, I’ll remember this and finish the books.

And holistically, I have a mini apothecary and pantry stuffed with whole grains & organic this and that. Always open for recipes, however!

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13 Rob Woods October 6, 2010 at 8:29 pm

Wow! Sounds like you’ve had a lot to deal with. Take the time to get better and lean on the rest of us. If there’s anything we can do to give you a hand…don’t hesitate to reach out.

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14 Dana Lookadoo October 6, 2010 at 8:40 pm

Rob, now “leaning” on others is something I’m learning as well. Why is it that it’s so difficult for us to ask others for help? But upon your encouragement, I may do just that. You volunteering to take out red eye from PubCon conference photos for me? :-) Thanks, Rob, for the reminder and suggestion!

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15 Carrie Hill October 6, 2010 at 8:53 pm

Dana!
Thank you so much for sharing your story – it made me stop and think about why I’ on the computer while the rest of my family is sleeping. A great “wakeup” to kick start my “personal priority list” reorganization.

I’m so glad you’re doing better and I’m sending positive thoughts your way – and my wishes that you continue to have great days!

If there’s anything I can do to lighten your load – help out – offer a shoulder….I’m here for ya!

xoxo Take care of you! ~C

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16 Dana Lookadoo October 6, 2010 at 9:16 pm

OK, if I inspired my workaholic friend, Carrie hill, to go to bed earlier and spend more time with family, then going through this was worth it!

Interestingly, the One Month study had an exercise to list out your top 10 values, then cut them down to your top 5. Now, cut them down to your top 2. Question: Ask yourself if you are spending time on the top 2 most important things in your life.

Thank you, Carrie! I quite like knowing your shoulder is available! I won’t hesitate.

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17 Erin Smith October 6, 2010 at 9:05 pm

Dana,
Thank you so much for you sharing your “fall”. At some point we are all given adversity. The real test comes with our awareness of inner strength and priorities. I am so glad to hear you are healing. I hope that you continue to get your strength back and do take good care of yourself. Sometimes asking for help seems like it makes us look weak. Quite the contrary. Allowing others to help is a sign that we are strong enough to know our weaknesses. Come down for a visit soon. A girls night out maybe just what the Dr. ordered!

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18 Dana Lookadoo October 6, 2010 at 9:31 pm

Erin, I know you’ve gone through your own battles. I imagine you learned many lessons. I shall memorize, “Allowing others to help is a sign that we are strong enough to know our weaknesses.”

I shall plan to see you soon for a girls night out!

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19 Jen Sable Lopez October 6, 2010 at 9:15 pm

Dana I’m so proud of you for opening up like this. :) You have so many friends and people who love you that it means a lot to let all of us in. I’m so fortunate to have you as a friend! These past few weeks have been absolutely crazy, but you are such a strong, amazing woman. You give me someone to look up to. :)

I also wanted to thank you for all your support over the past month while I was going through my own drama. You were right there for me the entire time (even if it was virtually) and that meant the world to me.

It’s good to slow down a bit and see the beautiful world out there. I love you!! And again thank you so much for sharing. It helps us all to put things into perspective.

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20 Dana Lookadoo October 6, 2010 at 9:37 pm

Jen, you have no idea how being “alongside” next to you in a small way while you went through your cancer battle helped ME. You were strong and positive and still are. You were my role model, and I was thinking of you while I was having ultra sounds as you were in the hospital. You lifted me up this past month in ways I can’t fully express.

Thanks for the encouragement. It’s hard to share weaknesses. We all want to be that strong fortress. But I often find that it’s our challenges that provide us with empathy toward others.

Much love to you back! :-)

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21 Jen Sable Lopez October 6, 2010 at 9:59 pm

It really is odd how we were going through so much at the same time. I kept missing your phone calls but every time I saw a message was waiting for you, I got a smile on my face. You made me feel very strong, and very much loved. :)

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22 Dana Lookadoo October 7, 2010 at 2:49 pm

I felt EXACTLY the same way missing your calls. It’s been special to hold each other up, bonding…

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23 Jami Hall October 6, 2010 at 9:17 pm

Dana, You are such a totally amazing person and always have been. I admired you and your strength way back in high school. Reading some of your postings on FB this past year have been amazing. Your dedication to all of what you do. Your dedication to family, friends and work. I don’t know how you had time for all. (and cycling). Sometimes we don’t know our own inner strength until something wakes us up. You really found yours and we are all thankful. You take care Miss Dana and my prayers will stay with you!!!!!!!!

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24 Dana Lookadoo October 6, 2010 at 9:39 pm

Jami, gosh, wow, I’m actually speechless! Thank you, and those prayers are welcomed! Hugs from over the years!

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25 Doc Sheldon October 6, 2010 at 10:41 pm

Dana- I had no idea what you’d been going through. I thought you had just had a “routine” fall. Sounds like it was far from it!

I’m sure I’m not the only one reading this, that feels a little guilty too, for spending all day on the computer, while the rest of the family is off doing something else. Life is too short to waste a minute.

Thanks for sharing your feelings. It sounds to me like taking that fall may turn out to be a wonderful thing for you. And for those of us that are willing to recognize your wisdom in rearranging your priorities… well, you may well have saved us from having our own fall.

However often you pop up, at the conferences, on Twitter, in the Dojo, wherever… you know we’ll be that much happier to see you, ’cause you were missed.

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26 Dana Lookadoo October 7, 2010 at 9:14 am

Doc, I greatly appreciate the sentiment and your following up with my to check on my noggin’ last week. You are right:

Life is too short to waste a minute.

Spend more time with family and less computer time. Both will be better as a result!

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27 Patricia Skinner October 7, 2010 at 12:07 am

Dana I’m so sorry you had to go through all this, but I’m so happy for you that you managed to put it all in a positive, constructive light. That’s a major battle in life–realizing that everything that happens to us happens for a reason. I look forward to savoring your friendship whenever you and I manage to be online together–we’re going for quality and not quantity right? :)

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28 Dana Lookadoo October 7, 2010 at 9:17 am

ah, Patricia, we’ve had these conversations before. My long-term memory is intact. :-) Thanks for the reminder,

Quality and not quantity!

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29 Melinda Dunn October 7, 2010 at 12:56 am

Aw, Dana! Thank you so much for sharing what’s been happening and the wisdom that has come with it :) I am glad you are feeling better :)

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30 Dana Lookadoo October 7, 2010 at 9:20 am

Melinda, you just gave me a thought to ponder. “If pride comes before a fall, does wisdom come after it?” Maybe so. Thanks!

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31 Will Critchlow October 7, 2010 at 1:20 am

Hey Dana,

Way to keep your head up. It was good to see you briefly in Seattle just at the end of the last good patch – sorry to hear how tough it’s been since then but glad to hear you’re doing better.

Let me know if there’s ever anything I (or we at Distilled) can do to help.

W

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32 Dana Lookadoo October 7, 2010 at 9:23 am

Will, your sentiment means a lot, gosh, another speechless moment! I so admire your leadership and business savvy and the way you are always open to share information with the search industry. Your reaching out is the cherry on top! Thank you!

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33 Halvorsen October 7, 2010 at 6:58 am

Dana,

I’m glad you’re keeping positive through all this! Sleep does the body wonders. Focus on yourself and stay strong! You are in my prayers.

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34 Dana Lookadoo October 7, 2010 at 9:25 am

Mike. I used to tell my Mom that sleep was a waste of time. Now I understand the healing power of it, in combination with prayer. Thanks for the reminder!

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35 Halvorsen October 7, 2010 at 1:51 pm

No problem! Get better and take breaks from work often! Glad you’re okay.

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36 goodnewscowboy October 7, 2010 at 7:46 am

Dana, yours is an AWESOME story! Praise God that your kidney’s weren’t failing and that it was something you could do something about. Not to say that the “to do” is easy, but it beats the alternative with a baseball bat.

Your positive attitude is truly inspiring, and that combined with prayer, water and sleep will take you far. (The mercy of God then makes up the difference :)

PS – If you find a way to scale back on the technology, yet still remain connected then I can guarantee you that if you post that solution, it will be your most heavily trafficked blog post of all time.

PPS – I really liked the living the dash advice. I’m ordering the book.

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37 Dana Lookadoo October 7, 2010 at 9:32 am

GoodNewsCowboy, I’m working on that technology/connectedness ratio formula, already have a little diagram! :-) I’ll ping you first when it’s ready. :-)

You’ll enjoy the book; here’s my shameless affiliate link to One Month to Live. I look forward to hearing how it influences how you live your dash.

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38 robin fradin October 7, 2010 at 7:58 am

Dear Dana,

I am so sorry to hear that you have been ill recently. It is amazing what we learn when we get a wake up call after we “fall”. I give you so much credit for turning a potentially negative time in your live into some that will benefit you, not just now, but for entire life going forward in prioritizing what is REALLY important in your life. God moves in mysterious ways at times. I am so glad to hear you are back on the mend.
Thank you for sharing your experiences…Love, Robin

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39 Dana Lookadoo October 7, 2010 at 9:53 am

Robin, the One Month to Live book reviews the aspect of response, our choice in situations. Some say:

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% attitude.”

I’ve seen you live this out multiple times in your live; I’m doing the same. Heck, it’s empowering!

Love you, too!

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40 Casey Yandle October 7, 2010 at 9:59 am

I’m sorry to hear that you had to go through all of this but am so glad that things are getting better for you Dana! You’re a strong-willed person who can accomplish whatever she sets her mind to! Let me know if you need anything as I have extra hours of sleep that I can donate to you if you need them! Best of luck chica! :)

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41 Dana Lookadoo October 7, 2010 at 1:39 pm

Casey, pass those extra hours of sleep over here! And I’ve watched you be incredibly strong through your cancer treatments. YOU have been an inspiration to me, to all of us, multiple times!

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42 Kayden Kelly October 8, 2010 at 1:48 pm

Hi Dana,

Sorry to hear about all the challenges you have faced recently. Here is to taking your life back and focusing on what matters most. Let’s encourage one another to have more balance in our lives. Keep in touch and take care of yourself.

P.S. Kudos on all your recent, impressive accomplishments. Just stop being such a Social/SEO powerhouse and smell the roses too. I would love to take you to lunch one of these days soon.

Best Regards,
Kayden and the Blast Team

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43 Dana Lookadoo October 8, 2010 at 2:39 pm

ah, Kayden … It feels like I just got a bouquet of roses from Blast. I shall heed your reminder to slow down and smell them! Thank you!

As someone who also loves their work, you know the challenge – “work is play.” Knowing when to set those boundaries is an ongoing moment-by-moment decision-making process. We’ll just remember the Nike tagline, “Just Do it!” :-)

We’ll have to do lunch and maybe even a bike ride! :-)

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44 Ian October 8, 2010 at 4:15 pm

Egads Dana, you need to take a break! Rest. Heal. Get back on the bike. And I’ll see you at the next conference.

Remember the community is here when you need it, not just when it needs you – let us know what we can do to help.

Ian

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45 Dana Lookadoo October 8, 2010 at 5:29 pm

Ian, well, help? Yes, I’d like to do a Vulcan Mind Meld with you. I’ll trade my concussion for your sharp wit! :-) And talking about the bike, do we dare try to plan for Levi’s Granfondo next year?

Do look forward to seeing you soon. You’re one of my favorite lunch buddies – as long as I can refrain from spitting food out while laughing at the table …

All kidding aside, I really appreciate it!

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46 Lisa Brown October 12, 2010 at 6:31 pm

I was wondering why I hadn’t seen you in my twitter stream or elsewhere. So glad to hear you are okay and taking time to take care of yourself.

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47 Dana Lookadoo October 12, 2010 at 8:25 pm

Lisa, Lisa, I soooo appreciate hearing from you. You are a favorite fellow gal geek who makes me smile when I see your smiling avatar. The whole situation has opened up doors I would not expect, and I’ve been overwhelmed with support.

I also discovered a mode of transportation unused before today – Amtrak! I didn’t feel ready to drive to a client meeting in the Bay Area. What would have been a long day driving 150 miles in commute traffic turned into a pleasant adventure. This “taking care of one’s self” thing can be fun!

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48 Bill Bean October 16, 2010 at 2:32 pm

Reading your post today was like getting chiropractic adjustment for my attitude. Your attitude/perspective is more than admirable. Stick to it!

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49 Dana Lookadoo October 16, 2010 at 7:40 pm

Oh Bill, your comment is like a tonic of encouragement! I so appreciate your taking the time. Speaking of tonics, I’m not sure who originally said it, but I’ve been quoting the following in my mind:

“Make lemonade out of lemons.”

The sweetener comes from friends’ support. Thanks for adding a little more sugar to the “lemonade.”

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50 Eric Bonnici October 22, 2010 at 12:00 pm

Hi Dana,

I wish you all the best! And admire how you look at all that is happening as a challenge and opportunity to rebuild and change focus. I’m in a humpty dumpty phase myself both in business, my ill daughter, and with my spouse and can relate. I really don’t feel comfortable getting into the details here but I’m having a tough time but looking at it as a challenge, time to refocus, and rebuild too.

In fact, yesterday I read a very inspiring blog post at Problogger.net and think you and your blog subscribers might want to think about reading it over.

Its called: 10 Questions That Will Always Make You Better
http://www.problogger.net/archives/2010/10/21/10-questions-that-will-always-make-you-better/

Talk soon and see you on Twitter and Facebook even its a little less often. :-)
Eric

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51 Dana Lookadoo October 22, 2010 at 2:38 pm

Eric, I’m soooooo glad you shared the Problogger.net post. I have to quote my favorite take-away:

“… Survival is complicated. Nothing worth achieving is ever easy.

By definition, there will be moments when you feel unable to go on, to overcome, or to choose what you know in your heart must be chosen.

A critical sub-set of this question contains two elements: persistence and discipline. Both are essential. Both will determine your outcome. And both are choices.

Persistence and discipline. They are like welcomed friends we often don’t want to bother taking with us on a journey. When they are invited, however, we get back up on the wall and rebound faster & better from “falls” in our life.

Thanks for your transparency and sharing, Eric. You are in the midst of some gravel-filled roads, and I look forward to hearing how things proceed as you climb back up on the wall yourself. Makes me want to help and encourage you. Need a prayer or a listening ear? You got it!

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52 Ruud Hein October 26, 2010 at 8:30 pm

I tend to patiently wait for your next real post to come along — because it is so worth it.

Thanks for sharing everything you did. I’m amazed to see how everything is used to work towards good.

Refocusing sure does good and so does the calm that comes from being freed of that artificial sense of online alarming urgency :)

Keep calmly going, Dana.

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53 Dana Lookadoo October 26, 2010 at 9:34 pm

Ruud, just having you read my little Humpty Dumpty story is an honor. And you are so spot on about focusing. Lately, since I’ve been feeling better, I’ve caught myself returning to previous tendencies. But with boundaries drawn, sanity and calmness returns.

It took this “fall” for me to take the time to review my values, passions and goals. As a result, I scheduled out the last 10 weeks of 2010, and guess who I thought of during this time of productivity? YOU! Before year end, I shall write that process post. ;-)

Thank you for being such an inspiration and source of valuable information … and mostly for your friendship!

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